Questions Caregivers Ask

When you're caring for someone with prostate cancer, questions don’t wait for perfect timing — they show up at 2 a.m., in parking lots, and while folding laundry.

This page is a space for the things caregivers wonder in the quiet moments — and the real, compassionate answers we don’t always hear.

If you’re asking something, chances are someone else is too. You’re not alone.🌻🌻🌻

📘 The Book Is Coming Soon
Standing Beside Him: Caregiver’s Guide will be available soon in print and eBook.

In the meantime, I’ll continue sharing free tools and honest answers right here — because caregivers need support now, not later.

Whether you're in the thick of treatment, living with long-term effects, or just trying to catch your breath — you’re not alone here.

Questions and Answers

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Gentle questions. Honest answers.

From one caregiver to another —
you’re not alone here.

🌿 Q: How do I help without taking over?

A: It’s a tough balance — wanting to support without making him feel like he’s lost control.
Start by offering, not directing. Try saying:
“Would it help if I…” instead of “You need to…”

🔹 Use this tool: [Anchor Thought Builder]
🔹 More in the book: Chapter 2 – Getting the Diagnosis

🌿 Q: What if I feel invisible in this journey?

A: So many caregivers feel this and never say it out loud.
You’re showing up every day, but it can feel like no one sees what you’re carrying.
Please know: what you’re doing matters. And you matter.

🔹 Use this tool: [Coping When You Feel Powerless – Journaling Prompt]
🔹 More in the book: Chapter 7 – What About Me?

🌿 Q: How do I stay grounded when everything feels out of control?

A: When everything feels chaotic, try creating an anchor thought — a short, steady phrase to repeat when emotions rise.
It won’t fix everything, but it can help you breathe when the ground feels shaky.

🔹 Use this tool: [Anchor Thought Builder]
🔹 More in the book: Chapter 6 – When You Feel Powerless

🌿 Q: What if he won’t talk about it?

A: Silence is one of the hardest things to hold as a caregiver. When he shuts down or avoids talking about the cancer, it can feel like you’re walking the road alone — or carrying the whole emotional load for both of you.

Start by remembering this: silence isn’t always rejection. Sometimes it’s fear, grief, or a need to feel strong by “not dwelling.”

Try using soft openers like:

“Do you want to talk, or would you rather I just sit with you?”

Or:

“I don’t need you to explain it. I just want to understand what you’re feeling.”

The door doesn’t have to swing wide open. Sometimes it just needs to be cracked a little.

🔹 Use this tool: [Couples Communication Page]
🔹 More in the book: Chapter 8 – Two People, One Diagnosis